Now go get'em!

Have a fabulous day,
M

As harsh as the title of this post may sound, I've come to realize that is what I must do to people whom I cannot help but love and yet I can't keep in my life because they hurt me despite the fact that I have told them they are hurting me. 

Few days ago, I came across this quote somewhere "You can love someone but you do not need to keep them in you life" and it hit me, that is what I must accept and do in order to bring some peace in some parts of my life. 

As the process of confronting family about certain secrets began few months ago, I entered new battles in my mind and soul regarding childhood events which my brain had chosen to forget because subconsciously it knew my body could not handle it, and so it kept it away from my conscious mind until I unload some secrets. Only then new memories surfaced to my conscious state of mind and now I am dealing with other dark, twisted past issues. It's a never ending hell space in my brain. The darkness seems to continue forever. 

While dealing with my new found dark memories, family is getting around to dealing with issues which are now out in the open and some members must deal with it. During this process, many weaknesses have surfaced and despite guidance and advice that has been put forward by different individuals, family continues to take the wrong path, a path that is mainly self-centred & filled with lots of pride. This path is hurting me to the bone, the pain is so severe that at times my body starts shaking and I have to crawl into fetus position to make it stop. Fine. I can stop the shaking, but now I must stop the pain. So this is what I shall do, I will love, but I will not keep them in my life. I will visit, but I will not give my sundays to them. I will call, but I will not put my personal needs after them. 

Love is unfair. You are genetically designed to love your blood. Blood will hurt you, blood will betray you, blood will cut your wounds deeper. We must not be afraid to say 'hey, I love you, but I'm out'. 

You are the most important thing in your life. So give you the highest priority. 

"The moment of impact. The moment of impact proves potential for change. Has ripples effects far beyond what we can predict. Sending some particles crashing together. Making them closer than before. While sending others spinning off into great ventures. Landing them where you've never thought you've found them. That's the thing about moments like these. You can't, no matter how hard you try, control how it's gonna affect you. You just gotta let the colliding part goes where they may. And wait. For the next collision. These moments of impact that turn our lives upside down, actually end up defining who we are."
 - Leo, The Vow 

We all make mistakes, it is part of learning, gaining wisdom and maturing. HOWEVER, once that mistake is made and it surfaces to a place where it effects people around you, it is HOW you DEAL with it, YOUR ACTIONS, which define you as a person. Will you set things right with the people you have hurt? or will you let your pride and ego take control and do nothing that will ease the pain you have caused to the people you love by making those mistakes....

Be a big person, do what is right. The right actions go further then your ego & pride can ever go. 

That said, I also admit that it is far easier said than done. Sometimes we make mistakes, we don't do the right thing even when we know what needs to be done and continue hurting people we love, but we must always try. 

I hate discrimination. 

I often hear "Don't go there, I hear it's not safe, there is too much crime" or "Why are you going there? there is nothing to see" ... I like to think every country, every nation, every culture has something unique to offer me as an individual who is always striving for wisdom, knowledge and experience. 

When I said I'm going to Uganda, the reactions I received were as follows:
"what!? Uganda? Uganda Africa? Uganda? Why!?"
"Uganda!? really? it's the murder capital of the world!" 
"Uganda as in Uganda in Africa? really? why? there is nothing to see"
... & the list goes on. 

Well to those who think Uganda has nothing to offer, your wrong.
It has magnificent landscapes, wild animal life, generous people and sweet tropical rain. This is just from a tourists point of view. From a business point of view, the governments structure is built to benefit investors whom wish to start a venture (free land, tax free, great support for imports and exports, the list goes on...). 

Don't go judging when A. Your information is based on what you have heard and NOT what you have experienced and B. Who are you to judge a nation? a country? ... Please keep your ignorant opinions to yourself. Thank you. 

For those interested to learn more about this beautiful country with it's colourful culture, visit http://www.guide2uganda.com/information_about_Uganda & if you are a twitter user, you can follow @Guide2Uganda, these great people respond quick and can guide you through Uganda virtually should you decide to pay Uganda a visit. 

Some quick facts about UGANDA:

• Area: 93,065 sq km (land: 76,101 sq km, water 16,965 sq km).
• Administrative divisions: 111 districts across four administrative regions
• Borders: 2,698 km (Democratic Republic of Congo 765 km, Kenya 933 km, Rwanda 169 km, Sudan 435 km, Tanzania 396 km) or 1,676 miles. 
• Capital: Kampala.
• Climate: Tropical. Rainy seasons, march to may, september to february and mid june to mid august. Mean annual temperatures range from about 16C (61F) in southwestern highlands to 25C (77F) in the northwest; but in the northeast, temperatures exceed 30C (86F) about 254 days per year. 
• Currency: The shilling (UGX).
• Elevation: highest point; Margherita peak on mount Stanley at 5,110 metres. 
• Ethnic groups: Buganda, Iteso, Basoga, Banyankore, Banyarwanda, Bakiga, Lango, Acholi, Lugbara, Banyoro, Batoro, Karamojong & European. 
• Electricity: 240 volts AC 50Hz. Square-pin plugs mostly used. 
• Exchange rate: UGX 2,450 per US dollar (2012)
• History: Uganda gained independence from Britain in 1962, maintaining its Commonwealth membership. 
• Industries: cotton, coffee, tea, sugar, tobacco and textile. 
• Geography: Uganda is landlock. The south of the country includes a substantial portion of Lake Victoria. The centre is dominated by Lake Kyoga. 
• Languages: The official language is English, although many other languages are spoken in Uganda. 
• Population: 33.8 million (2009 estimate).
• International dialling code: +256.
• Time: GMT +3. 
• Religions: Christian 84%, muslim 12%, other 1%, none 0,7% (2002 census).

Overall, I loved Uganda. Every bit of it. The land is colourful and vibrant, the people are professional and friendly, the food is delicious and tasty and most of all, the culture is rich and exciting. Take a look at some of the things I experienced here and please remember, you are a no body to judge a nation or a country. You are a somebody who has been put on this planet to experience and enjoy the very natural and beautiful things this planet has to offer. 

With love and my outmost wishfulness for a wiser and a better generation to come, 
Mary


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Alors, now I'm in Jamaica for a variety of reasons, but the main one is to re group and clear some of the clutter that has piled up on my mind & Jamaica is by far the most inspiring, peaceful and loving place to be in when one needs to think with a clear head. It had been a while I needed to write a new blog and today I walked into the beach bar with my lab top, sat on a bench on the beach and it all just came to me... so here I am sharing it with you. 

I'm working on a project right now remotely, but nothing too loaded. Working remotely from any location is one of my favourite things to do now. I almost never want to work from headquarters anymore, but I know I will miss the routine of structured work environment (not that I ever really did that, I've mainly been a freelancer). Aside from my current project, www.smallbizontv.com, I plan on travelling to south of france, Italy, asia and middle east. All as a part of my re grouping experiment and finding my new focus. 

Exploring is my newest thing now, well...I'm generally an adventurious person but now more than ever. So I share a few photos of my new discoveries in Jamaica. You can also visit my photo journal of my previous Jamaica trips here. 

Depending on where I am, I say I adapt pretty well. I throw a fist back home if everything is not at my disposal and here in Jamaica, at times I've had to dig the water out of the well, boil it, cool it and drink it. I kinda' like living different life styles. What I admire about myself is the fact that I was born in the city, raised in a privilege environment but I love country/farm life. I wonder how I can intertwine both worlds (city/country) in my life...